Want to know more about your Korean husband?
Being married takes a lot of work, even with someone from the same culture.
This post will share ways to get along with your Korean husband. 🙂
Let’s find out
- what to call your husband in Korean
- pros and cons of Korean husbands
- their expectations and fears
- how to communicate better
- what they celebrate
- gift ideas
What do you call your husband in Korean?
The Korean title for husband is “남편 (nampyeon)”. “신랑 (shillang)” is also used, but mostly refers to newlywed husbands or grooms.
- You can call your Korean husband by saying 여보 (yeobo or yobo), 자기 (jagi), 오빠 (oppa) or his name. These are terms of endearment in Korean.
- Some Korean women call their husbands “their kid’s name + appa”, meaning their kid’s father. This is often done in front of in-laws to avoid sounding immature.
🚫Avoid calling your husband “야 (ya)”, because it may shock or upset him. (It’s OK to say “ya” when you’re joking around.)
Other helpful spouse-related Korean words are:
- 배우자 (baewooja): Spouse
- 부부 (booboo): Married couple
- 유부남 (yooboonam): Married man
- 유부녀 (yooboonyeo): Married woman
What are the pros and cons of having a Korean husband?
⚠️This is just a generalization of Korean husbands to give you an idea of what to expect. Experiences will vary depending on his personality and how westernized he is.
- stylish: Korean men groom really well, including their eyebrows, hairstyle, clothes, etc.
- dedicated: Korean husbands devote themselves to their family and work.
- hygiene: Korean men shower and change underwear/socks every day. They usually don’t have body odor.
- gift giver: Korean husbands will buy you lots of (expensive 😉) gifts!
- diligent: Korean men will always go to work, even when they’re not feeling so well.
- selfless: They’ll take out food waste (음쓰 or 음식물쓰레기) and recycle for you in Korea.
- appreciative: If you buy him a PS5 or let him play games, he’ll really appreciate it and brag about you to his friends.
- different: Korean men tend to change once they get married. He might be romantic like Ryan Gosling in ‘The Notebook’ at first, then turn into Archie Bunker from The Honeymooners (A.K.A. ajeossi).
- hyoja: A son may be indifferent to his parents before marriage, but become a hyoja (효자 or good devoted son). The catch is that Korean husbands expect their wives to perform their filial duties, such as calling his parents to see how they’re doing.
- tired all the time: I kind of understand this one since Korean men work a lot of hours. But still, they’re tired all the time and glued to the couch on the weekend.
- less involved in nurturing: Although Korean men can be good at doing chores, it’s rare to see a Korean husband highly involved in raising children.
- possessive: Korean men whether they’re boyfriends or husbands can be conservative.
- inexpressive: They rarely express their feelings or have long conversations. Korean men embrace the traditional notion that a man may only cry three times in his life: when he’s born, when his parents pass away and when his country perishes.
What are their expectations?
In general, Korean husbands expect you to do more housework, whether you have a job or not. I’m not sure if it’s because their income tends to be higher, at least in Korea. Also, they expect you to raise children perfectly without their involvement so much.
In Seoul and metropolitan areas, most married couples have double income to afford the high living costs. Whereas in the countryside, most Korean husbands make money while wives quit their jobs before/after the wedding and focus on domestic duties.
Korean men expect their wives to be nice to their parents, as in calling them frequently to ask how they’re doing, and meeting them on every occasion like birthdays, Christmas, holidays, etc.
What do they fear?
Korean husbands are afraid of losing their jobs and being unable to fulfil their duty of providing for their family. This would diminish their self-esteem and they’d lose 체면 (chemyeon or face).
A close second be their wives finding out about their secret PlayStation.
Korean men are less afraid of divorce compared to Korean women.
How to communicate better with your Korean husband
Creating a nice ambiance for more conversations will be helpful.
Try to have a glass of wine with him, or a bowl of makgeoli (막걸리) with pajeon on a rainy day.
Also, treat your Korean husband as if you’re coding. They need a specific “input” to yield an “output”. For example, if you need him to clean the house, you can tell him, “please vacuum by 2 PM”.
When you want a specific gift for your anniversary or birthday, telling him exactly which item you want will help a lot.
Just like any other relationship, being nice and empathetic with each other will often lead to a happy marriage!
How to apologize to your Korean husband
Though most Korean husbands seem to apologize first, when you want to step up and be the first to do so, you can always say “미안해 (mianhae)”.
Most Korean husbands are forgiving, and they’ll accept your apology.
If you caused an argument, you can apologize by saying “잘못했어 (jalmothaessuh)”, which means “I was wrong”. Most men will be very happy if you do this occasionally.
What do Korean married couples celebrate?
Married couples in Korea celebrate 결혼기념일 (gyeolhon ginyumil) or 결기 (gyeolgi) for short, which is their wedding anniversary.
Most couples celebrate by going to a nice western restaurant. They also like to travel, especially for their wedding anniversary or hokangseu.
Like most people around the world, Korean married couples celebrate each other’s birthdays and Christmas.
If you want to make your husband happy, tell him he doesn’t have to make a big deal out of these holidays.
Gift ideas for your Korean husband
If you want to make your Korean hubby happy on a rainy day, try making 파전 (pajeon or Korean pancake) and buy a bottle of 막걸리 (makgeoli) from a store. He’ll be glad to share that Korean sentiment with you and really appreciate it.
For special occasions like a wedding anniversary, your Korean husband will be thrilled to get a PlayStation, Apple Watch, branded clothes like sweaters, etc. But to be honest between you and me, Korean women rarely buy their husbands gifts even though they receive a lot, so anything you get will make him happy!
Another option is to go to a nice restaurant for dinner or travel somewhere. You can find trendy cafes and restaurants. Popular travel destinations in Korea now are: Gangwon-do, Jeju and Busan!
The best gift you can give your Korean husband is to not focus on money. He’s most likely working hard and trying to get promoted. Instead, you can listen to his problems at work and empathize sometimes to show that you’re on his side.
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